I’m going to get straight to the point…. IS YOUR FEAR BIGGER THAN YOUR PURPOSE?
Now I don’t want you to give me an answer straight off the batt, in fact I would prefer it if you didn’t answer me straight away. What I want you to do instead, is to think about it, and I mean really think about it…. Ask yourself – Do you hold yourself back? Wether it be talking yourself out of doing a Facebook Live stream because your terrified of people’s perceptions or opinions, or picking up the phone and making the sales that your business deserves…
What is it that you are putting off doing because of fear?
Every week I speak to 100’s of different women about their business’s. Where they are now, where they want to be and the struggles they are facing within their business and the one thing that I see over and over again is the FEAR that women are facing. The FEAR of stepping outside of their comfort zone. The FEAR of being judged, criticised and rejected because they have put themselves out there and owned their purpose or their message, and most of all I see the FEAR of FAILURE & SUCCESS! Yes, I said success!
There is a great saying which states;
“WHAT IF I FAIL? OH MY DARLING, BUT WHAT IF YOU FLY?”
Now I absolutely LOVE this quote, and it has actually helped me get through some serious upper limits throughout my journey, but what they don’t tell you is that sometimes the fear of flying is just as scary if not scarier than the fear of failing.
The point that I am trying to make is that no matter what your fear is, you need to make your purpose stronger than any of the fear that is residing within you!
I have said it before and I will say it again and again and again… The world needs that special gift that you and ONLY you posses!
Let me be real with you for a minute – YES there are going to be people who criticise you! Yes there are going to be people who are going to put you down! Yes you will be rejected, A LOT! But there are also going to be people who applaud you, who gain comfort and knowledge from everything that you are saying and contributing to the world and YES you are going to succeed as long as you keep growing and moving forward.
The question is, “How do you do this when you are paralysed with fear?”
Well here are 3 tips to get you off on the right track.
- SHAKE IT OFF! It’s time to channel Taylor Swift and SHAKE IT OFF. Stop paying attention to what other people think and say about you. The truth is, what other people think about you is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! Not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone is going to understand your message or even care about your message so stop wasting your time and your energy on these people – THEY AREN’T YOUR TRIBE! So stop wasting time on them and move on!
- MAKE YOUR MESSAGE STRONGER THAN YOUR HATERS. Be so focused on your mission, on your purpose and on your vision that this becomes stronger than your haters. You see what happens when you are in alignment and you are doing your great work is that you start building a tribe of raving fans. You start building a tribe of people who see your vision, who gain value from your message and who are aligned in your purpose which in turn makes your message that much louder, that much stronger. Good ALWAYS wins. So have faith and keep going girl!
- FEEL THE FEAR & DO IT ANYWAY! Make the decision to do it and just DO IT! It’s that simple. If you want it enough than you will find a way and you will make it happen. It is always scary when you are stepping outside of your comfort zone and doing something new but the key here is to feel the fear and do it anyway! Think about it- If you never tried anything new then you would never be able to move forward. Think about where you want to be and who you want to be and then map out the actions that you will need to take to get you to where you need to be. By giving yourself clear and concise steps will help reduce the anxiety and overwhelm that a lot of entrepreneurs experience during these times.
Years ago after I had split from my now ex-husband I found myself with most of my confidence down the drain and I really struggled to put myself back out there and live my purpose. I felt like a complete failure and a total fraud….
How could I be encouraging women to #createalifeyoulove when my life was falling apart?
In stepped my mentor, who reminded me that no one person’s journey is perfect ALL of the time and that it is the hard times that shapes us for the better times. Remember – it is always darkest before dawn. He then proceeded to tell me that every time I started to feel that doubt and fear creeping in, he wanted me to do 1 positive action to equal out the negative reaction to my fear. Now this did have to be something big, it could range from a Facebook post or video to reaching out to a new client, it didn’t matter what the action was, the point was to keep me moving forward despite my fears and doubts.
Fast forward 12 months later and I was travelling the world speaking at events, I had a tribe of clients from around the globe who inspired me as much as I inspired them and I had a life that I loved.
Now this isn’t to say that I still don’t feel doubt or fear anymore and that my problem with fear and doubt disappeared because I ABSOLUTELY DO and it ABSOLUTELY DIDN’T! But I have learnt that the key is to KEEP MOVING FORWARD despite the fear!
You hold the key gorgeous! Your future is in your hands – So what is it going to be? Is your purpose bigger than your fear?